Hi All,
I've been a lurker on the list for a month or so. I will be on MTX from mid-October, and am currently on prednisone and Celebrex. I have obtained a lot of good anecdotal information from this group, which is why I subscribed.
I'm going to throw my two-bob's worth into the current discussion on OT and people leaving the list. I have been on a number of lists over the last few years, and EVERY one of them has had to deal with this problem.
If I am lucky, I can get on line for about half an hour a day as, like most of you, I work, and I am simply too tired at the end of the day to logon. In the short time I have, I do a number of things, including downloading emails of course. I don't get the digest version, as I prefer to quickly scan the body of each message.
A few weeks ago, on one particular day, more than 50% of the emails were, by definition, OT. Understandably, many people discuss matters that many other people are not interested in. It is not a lack of respect, nor indifference, when those messages are considered OT. I saw an interesting comment today from one member (please, I mean no offence here) who said that they don't discuss their PA with family and friends, and Mum thinks they just have a bad back. I imagine that a chat about anything would be pleasant when nobody other than those on the list understand PA.
Try what I have done. Tell your boss (and staff, and workmates) about your PA until they understand the pain you are in. Don't bore them, inform them. You are not moaning, you are telling them of a serious medical problem that adversely affects your life, and therefore, your work. Sue them if they sack you! Pass on what you have learned about PA and the drugs you are on to your family. They should understand the seriousness of PA if you give them enough info. I am sorry to say that I would be crushed if my Mum reduced my PA to a "bad back". Forget being proud and strong all by yourself, tell people. Don't let them patronise you. Relying on this list indicates a need, try fulfilling some of that need from some of the people who should be providing support a bit closer to home. I have a huge amount of support from family and friends. Perhaps I am lucky, or perhaps I made them treat PA seriously.
I have also noted the comment about many people not knowing how to email each other without emailing the group. I urge those people to learn how. Your browser will have a Help menu. You all found this group, so you are all somewhat computer literate.
When I joined this list, Gillian was the first to send me (offlist) a welcoming email. I appreciated that. However, if you are lurking out there Gillian, don't be so touchy. Different opinions are important. I'm sure, having read the "offending" email, that no offence was meant. However, I have two dogs, two cats and a rabbit, but apart from that mention, you won't hear about them on this list!
That's mine for what it's worth. This list has already given me a mountain of valuable info about the drugs I have to take, and what I can expect from MTX. If it cost money to join this list, I would already have my money's worth. That's why I subscribed.
Regards,
David Note from Michelle: Three cheers for your suggestions David!!! Thank you!!